How to deal with bullies
In this post, we are going to talk about how to deal with bullies and with their insults. The answers against these types of offenses are great to embarrass the people who insulted you.
But remember, making fun of your target can make him hate you. That’s why we are going to see more friendly and charismatic responses so you can go out looking fresh and confident without making enemies.
How to deal with bullies?
- Definition of a position
- Accept the insult and use it against the other
- Insult the insult
- Draw a limit
- Using the same style
- Show that you were not affected
1. Definition of a position
Many times instead of responding to the person’s insult, you answer that the person who insulted you is not relevant enough to be important.
Maybe you think this only works in the movies, but it doesn’t. In real life, this technique is just as effective. People often try to debate their insults instead of using this definition of their position.
When you use this technique, you dismantle the insult without even having to face it. You command respect and demonstrate that you are a few steps above the other person. It’s like you ignore the other.
2. Accept the insult and use it against the other
As well as the first technique on how to deal with bullies, the secret is not to try to contest the insult. Instead, accept it and use it against the other person.
Accepting the insult, turning the page forward, and using it to mock your target, it’s like you dictate and commanding the conversation. That gives you a good advantage to win the argument.
Despite being a great strategy, it has two downsides. First, you need to use them intelligently and in a brief period of time. That can be difficult. Second, although you conquer the public, you risk further irritating the person.
So always keep these two things in mind.
3. Insult the insult
Another way that you can destroy an insult and still make a crowd laugh is to insult the other’s insult. Instead of insulting the person, you insult their insult.
It can make the person feel stupid for insulting you without them feeling personally attacked.
4. Draw a limit
But imagine you don’t want to put yourself on the other person’s level and counterattack with an insult. If that’s the case, you can choose to draw a boundary.
A fantastic way to do this is to say that the other’s insult was rude and invite them to change their behavior. If you find the insult truly offensive, you can draw a line by making the insult clear. Then you can divert attention to something else.
This is quite revolting for bullies, as most of the time, their behavior is driven by a lack of attention.
Now let’s talk about charismatic responses, in case you weren’t offended. You can often use a playful insult as a bridge to make another joke to make others laugh.
5. Using the same style
An easy and effective way to make insults funny is by returning them in the same style as the other. If a person teases you in a way, you return it in the same style.
You will notice that when you do this, many times, the other person laughs. Since it was the other person who started it, there’s no reason she would be upset with you. The only two risks are if you really get upset about the insult or if the other person is overly sensitive.
Doing this is amazingly simple. You can do it almost without thinking. So, in general, this method is a wonderful way to turn an insult into something really fun.
Within that same framework, there is a good rule of thumb if someone specifically insults your body. When you want to make someone laugh, try to conjure up an absurd image in the person’s mind.
For example, instead of saying your body isn’t that muscular, you could say your body is shaped like a bag of beans someone sat on, as Kevin Hart likes to say.
You don’t always need to think of these terms and jokes instantly. Sometimes you may already have some thoughts.
6. Show that you were not affected
We talked about several ways of dealing with bullies and how to respond to their insults, but the truth is, an insult doesn’t always need a response. Sometimes the best thing you can do is show that you are not affected.
This is incredibly easy to do. It makes you look likable and confident without the slightest risk of hurting the other person’s feelings.
One way to do this is by literally answering rude rhetorical questions. This is when someone is insulting you, but you act like it’s just a normal question, even though you know it’s not.
Another uncomplicated way to show that you’re not affected, if you can do it genuinely, is to laugh at the insult. It shows that your confidence was not shaken in any way by what was said.
Remember, as much as it is funny and tempting to counter-attack, in your life you look for two things about insults.
The confidence to find the humor in a provocation, so you can clap with a smile or laugh along with a joke. And the confidence to set strong boundaries and cut people out of your life who regularly and genuinely insult you.
Because feeling this way makes you deal naturally with insults and especially with criticism.
This was how to deal with bullies and with people who insult you. The best option is always to get away from these people, but as this is not always possible, these answers may help you in some way.
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