How to be confident in every situation
Everyone would like to know how to be confident in their everyday situations.
But many don’t know that there are two types of trust. External trust, which we project, allows us to close deals, make new friends, or seduce someone. And internal trust is related to the way you feel internally and how comfortable you are in different situations.
That’s why in this post, we’re going to talk about these two types of confidence and how mastering them can transform any feeling of nervousness into complete confidence in any situation.
1. Have a relaxed posture
Adopting a relaxed posture on the couch or chair will make you feel more relaxed. Also, moving freely wherever you go conveys the feeling that you are at ease and that everything is under your control.
Some strategies for you to be more confident include keeping your feet shoulder-width apart when standing or resting your arm on a chair.
Also, it’s great that you convey non-verbally that others should try to get your attention. For example, maintaining a relaxed posture in a situation where you should be trying to please the other person, thus reversing the roles.
Another especially important thing is eye contact. Contrary to what many people think, you shouldn’t always look people straight in the eye.
You don’t have to ignore people to be interesting, but when you need to say something important, you want to be heard, you should stare at the other person. It keeps people on your toes, and your look reveals you’re confident in what you’re saying by emphasizing your best arguments.
Everything I’ve mentioned so far is trivial things that are easily accomplished. The hardest thing to control about your body language is what you don’t do.
So, if you don’t know how to be confident, start by doing these simple things and creating this habit.
2. Do not react impulsively
Another fundamental aspect of trust is not reacting. Pretending to be calm is sometimes extremely complicated because our emotions tend to control us in stressful situations, and this is a skill few possess.
A lack of confidence can be a major obstacle because we can overreact when we make a mistake, and that ends up making things worse.
When you don’t react, you demonstrate that you don’t feel pressured by the situation, and that makes you seem more powerful. This state of non-reaction is particularly important for leaders at work, in projects, in teams, and when facing crises.
But remember, expressing what you feel is important, but if you don’t control your emotions, they can become an obstacle when you are in an inconvenient situation.
By the way, being a man that keeps your emotions under control inspires all your colleagues and friends when faced with problems. Furthermore, you gain precious time to think by keeping silent when things are going wrong without revealing that you are confused or lost.
We generally demand a quicker response from ourselves than from others. We give ourselves around 30 percent less time to respond than we would someone else. This is all unconsciously.
Therefore, when you are in a stressful situation and feel the rush to take some action, take a break, whether in a presentation or if you have to decide something.
Mostly it’s better to stop, take a deep breath, and slow down to stop looking nervous or desperate.
3. Do not try to convince others
Another sign that you know how to be confident is not trying to convince other people in discussions.
Acting as equals. One of the ways to determine if we want to associate with someone is to assess how much that person wants or needs us. We like people who are interested in us and not those who are extremely interested.
It’s much better to show your interest in a date or with a client, and if you have, leave if they don’t show the same interest. But remember, if you walk out of there huffing and puffing, you’re not conveying confidence or respect. You’re just showing that you’re angry.
Instead of reacting like a lot of people do, screaming and telling a prospect or client that they are going to regret the lost opportunity, just accept the fact that you weren’t compatible and wish them the best.
4. Have the mindset that you will be fine no matter what happens
This brings us to the most important aspect of how to have unshakable confidence. When you internalize this mindset, your confidence expands.
And for that, the fastest way to build a belief is to live it intensely. That way, you show yourself that you’re going to be okay by doing the things you thought you’d do badly.
The most important aspect for you to know how to be confident is not about looking amazing, saying the right thing, or getting people’s approval. Confidence is living your life, at least socially, knowing that you’re going to be okay no matter what.
This means telling the truth even at the risk of losing, for example, a customer. Telling the truth even if it makes you feel weak. Because when you live the truth and believe that you will be fine no matter what happens to you, the feeling of weakness will last for a brief period.
You’ll stop thinking about always saying the right thing and worrying about rejection because you’ve come to accept who you are.
And when you combine that inner confidence with the ability to project outer confidence, your interactions will become much easier and more fun. Maybe with this, you start wanting to be in situations that before caused stress.
Conclusion
These are the tips you must try to follow if you want to know how to be confident. Remember, there is no use if you read this until the end and don’t execute any of them.
I hope you enjoyed it. Thank you!
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